I just got back from watching Pitch Perfect 3, the latest and last installment of the series. While being pleasantly surprised, and laughing at all the inappropriate jokes, I enjoyed the movie. It reminded me of how important it is for girls to have a group. Not a clique, not a team, just the group. Or as the T-Swift calls it, squad.
And I’m not the first person to consider this. Any TV show that has a group of girls really has the same categories. In The New Female Archtype, writes that they generally fall into the same four, the leader, the sarcastic second, the flirt, and the innocent. Pitch Perfect has those, Aubrey the leader, Beca the sarcastic second, Fat Amy the flirt, and Chloe the innocent.
There is something refreshing about how the narrative shows the squad. Not just how they work together, but how different they are, and still work together. My group is the same way, with one friend doubling up on the role of leader and flirt. I fall into the sarcastic second category, with a hefty side of leader if I have to be. My other friend follows up as the innocent/voice of reason/village elder.
Women need other women. We’re fundamentally wired to be social, even if we’re introverts. Or introverted extroverts. Women need the other women to encourage them, keep them grounded, and tell them how good their butt looks in those pants. On a side note, I thoroughly enjoyed how Anna Kendrick was really given a chance to show off her vocal talents.
I am blessed enough to have a squad. A solid one. Squads come in different shapes. I have the ancient one, with my two bffs, and then another with my work bffs. And then even another with my family members.
It’s also important to note that I get along better with boys than girls. I’m not the most athletic person in the world, but my incredibly dry sense of humor makes up for it. I tend to be one of the boys, fitting in comfortably with them as I usually don’t have to be so competitive. As the sarcastic second, competition between girls bores me to no end;
I like the girls that realise and embrace the fact that we are literally all in this together. There comes a point when you realize that the light those other girls try to shine on themselves is just a reflection of the sun. The women who support you best are the ones that are comfortable generating their own light. The best women aren’t afraid to lend some to you when you need it. Sometimes we have to take more than we should, it’s ok as long as you give it back.
Even though I haven’t spent a lot of time on this earth, I’ve learned my fair share of how detrimental it is when a member of your squad turns their back on you. What I have really discovered from that is those people weren’t actually your squad anyways. They were imitations of light. Reflectors, not creators.
Don’t be a reflector, unless you’re doing it on purpose.
New Year, New Pages,